Being husband and wife should be good.
I will admit I am terrified of
divorce rates, and how many friends of ours have already split/divorced, but I know I want to spend my life with
Feyoncé.
Now, my take on the wedding machine in general is this:
The general price tag? Exorbitant.
The typical lead time you need to book the venue and reception hall you need? Ridonkulous.
The overwhelming and ridiculous precedent that websites like TheKnot.com and OurWeddingDay.com set? Enough to make me curl into the fetal position, weeping, after learning I have to:
A) Tip everyone, their brother, their third cousin, and the janitor 22% (on top of the whack-job prices that are out there).
B) Import flowers from Fiji, Timbuktu and Alaska for my bouquet, in order to feel pretty and not have a laughable pack of stems (that will die in a few hours).
C) Ask 14 women to buy overpriced, hideous dresses to have a typical "bridal party" (I have seen many photographers' websites, and the average seems to be 7-8. For reals).
D) Pay $70 for a child's meal. (I kind of hope for underage drinking at that rate).
E) Realize I will ONLY be a beautiful bride with a designer dream dress worth $2,000+ (or be left treated like garbage at most bridal stores for looking for off-the-rack dresses that don't require ordering and are usually cheaper).
F) Be pressured to spend almost $200 on a piece of "bridal illusion tulle" (basically white or ivory screen door material with some beads) for a bloody veil! And what's that you say? Tiara? Oh, that small one there is $175. (*choke, gag*)
G) Spend hundreds of dollars on custom invitations and ornate centrepieces (who bases their enjoyment of a wedding based on the price tag of an invitation or centrepiece? Really?)
Okay, I could go on forever, but I'll cut to the chase.
We want a day to celebrate
our love. We want a reasonable wedding. We want our family and friends to be a part of our union, have a great meal, drink their faces off, dance, and experience a great party.
I don't want all the frivolous extras. Neither does
Feyoncé. They add up so FAST, but they are also more details to worry about.
I worry enough.
I obsess enough.
I just want nice.
Nice and simple, and a loving environment with our friends and family.
Not feeling forced into assimilating and following traditions. We aren't traditional. Shouldn't it be about love and fun and great memories? Not a second mortgage?
Societal pressure can be so bloody intense. And, by the way,
A through G will NOT be happening.
p.s. To those of you out there that have, or will, or plan to have ginormous huge $$$ blingy weddings, and WANT them, all the power to you. I am sure you will blow everyone away.
middle child - I will not be spending even a fraction of that on a flower girl basket, you can be damn sure, as I’ve mentioned before.
Tom G. - I damn well better only get married once. I couldn't handle the planning of a SECOND wedding! ;-)
You're Lucky I Don't Have a Gun... - I REFUSE to be jaded. I refuse to spend like crazy. I have to have a lame vegetarian gluten-free meal, lest I be a farty bride, but I get your point.
Yandie, Goddess of Pickles. - As I said, I did get one, at "Impression Bridal" in Mississauga, thanks to advice from a friend (thanks A!)
Storm. Kat Storm.- Don't be fooled, I come with a toolbox of fear as well. Also? I don't compute "upscale". lol.
V-Tom - Good luck getting married inexpensively ANYWHERE, even if it is simple. I understand your sentiment, but wedding costs for ANYTHING are insane. INSANE, I SAY!
becca, myjoyproject, Angie and Jumble Mash - Thanks for your congratulations, I appreciate the support.
The Empress - That is SO the mentality. Just make it bigger! Better! Grandiose! Charlie Sheen-esque (with less crazy). It's friggin' nuts.
steph c - Are you budget-less? Unlimited? We don't have a set budget, but we don't want to be suckers, or overpay where we don't have to.
Oilfield Trash - We're trying to keep it small. We are.
steph gas - Thanks steph. We know it's our day. Just gotta stay focused on the end goal! And you should totally look into wedding planning as a career again if you love it!
jess - That would be the most awesome bachelorette party ever, but I don't think I would have any takers.
Chris - Meh... I hate saying Feyoncé. I just want to enjoy things, but feel like I need to plan it all NOW, FIRST so I can then relax (ha ha).
On My Soapbox - It's true, even hairstyle "Updos" are $15+ more to start simply because it is for a bride and they know you will pay!
bruce - I'm with ya man. It's a rip off!
hed - These are the main details. Otherwise my friends who lurk and read this will see things before the wedding, and I don't want that! lol.
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